Exile in Geeksville

Ok, I haven’t come up for the title of this yet, Its about my future, which of course is unknown. I thought about calling it My Undiscoverd Country - but that is really a reference to life after death, and that’s not really how i want to think about my romantic life. I don;t want to call it Letters to Found Loves’ well because I am more original than that, plus i don’t want found loves. I do want to find someone I eventually share my life with, but I also want to find people who share my interests, and sense of adventure and humor. Like everyone else I want to belong - Even those of who staunchly reject social norms and conventions find ways of sharing common interests (and the internet has been a great place for them.)

Finding a name is important thing. Names define and empower us. Titles reflect what the content and intention is (one can only speculate what I was thinking when I came up with Exile in Geeksville I guess)

So I looked to others for examples and in looking I found some interesting blogs I want to take a moment to share with you.

- This Fish Needs A Bicycle - This is the Blog of one Heather Hunter, It chronicles the last 6 years of her life or so, starting with her break up with “J” (Jimmy Carter? JJ from Good Times? the Joker?) I don’t know if she ever reveals who he is, I am only two years into her archive and he is still “J” Psuedonyms like this in a blog confuse me, because everyone who knows her, knows who “J” is, and those who don’t have no clue, why hide his identity?

- Just Waiting to be Screwed Over - The Blog of a very pessimist dater from Canada - I can’t help but think the attitude going is going to affect the outcome.

- Grow Some Testicles - Four single young ladies have figured out the secret to dating in New York: Gentlemen, grow some testicles - Apparently these bloggers have moved on to some new things, but I am looking forward to seeing what they had to say

there are tons of them out there - and i enjoyed some of them, but I don’t want to be just another I am single in the city boo hoo blogs - That is part of the reason I have Geeksville be about more than just that. Stuff is happening for me. Some of it is exciting, some of its scary, some of it just sucks, but as Mr. Ted “Theodore” Logan said, “Strange things are afoot at the Circle K”

Stay tuned…

hey there blog buddies -

Thank you thank you thank you for all your support again,  so many of you have given me so much in the ways that you all could, and I am eternally grateful.

But that doesn’t make up for the lack of COUNTDOWNS. So….

RETURNS!

So  lets quick catch up, I am temping and I hate it, but I knew I would when I started.  So I sally forth.

Things are slowly coming together for me on the homefront, as I catch up after 8 months of touring.   I am looknig into the possiblity of getting a roommate,  now since I have a 1 bedroom, that means I may need to move, unless I become very close to a single female anytime soon (no don’t have one in particular in mind). That being said, I have shared my place short term with friends before,  folks who needed a place to stay while they were in town for a week a month ever a couple of days, and I will continue that offer as long as folks need it.  (think of it as staying at Dave’s Bronx B&B)

I know many of you have expressed concern about my mother.  She is still in chemo, but responding as well as we could have hoped.  Her spirits are strong, and positive, and she is looking forward to the family vacation she had planned before she became ill, in August, when she will go with my sisters and their families to Myrtle Beach, SC for a week.

GEEKSVILLE -  its coming back don’t you worry, I have 2 reviews sitting on my desk that need proofing,  A comic and that second half of the Doctor Who finale.

LOST LOVE -  Well I said in the last one, I think I am done with that now,  I have been looking to my past to figure out what I had been doing wrong there, and It has served me well -  I do have a new series planned to follow up on it.  I think if you like to read the MISSED CONNECTIONS on craigslist.org  yo may like this. LOL

JOB HUNT -  That is the next project,  I am temping yes, I have no intentions of staying in the place forever tho, so expect to hear about what it takes to re-invent yourself in today’s job market.

Ok  much peace to you all -

The Countdown continues…..

My Dears,

I have spent the couple of years or so rehashing the times we shared with one another, and if I had realized that what I started here was going to lead to all of this… well I don’t know, but I do know that I  have come to a conclusion -  I have written everyone of you that I every truly and honestly been in love with, and believed that you loved me back.  I could keep going on with this,  cause there were many more not so great loves in my life, and a few unrequited loves that burnt bright.  But to keep this special I think this has to end here….

I hope someday (someday soon) I find someone that I can make it really happy with.  Someone who excepts my idiosyncratic behavior.  Some one who shares  my passion for knowledge and understanding. Someone who rocks a pair of keds and t shirt as much as she does the little black dress.  Someone who knows it good to be a little bad sometimes.

I have been looking back for that person,  I should be looking forward

When my life settles down in a bit - I will start looking.  And when I do, I may start a new series here.  But that doesn’t mean you can’t come find me first.

By now you have heard about the girls in a small Massachuttes town who were celebrating in the nurse’s office when their pregnancy tests came back positive.  These girls, not even 16 years old got together and made a pact to get pregnant and raise their kids together.

WHAT IS GOING ON IN THIS CRAZY WORLD?

Time magazine reports that teen pregnancy on the rise 3%  first time in 15 years (or since the last Republician admininstration)  See what happens when family planning is removed from early education.  You have kids wanting to have kids there have been almost 750000 pregnancies resulting in 435000 kidslast year.

Hey Friends,

I am not sure how it has come to this…

As most of you know, I have been helping taking care of my mother, who has stage 4 pancreatic cancer.   This has not been easy on my mother, my family or myself.  I had been working on tour for the past 6 months, and between my tour expenses, travel to and from home to see/help and just my normal expenses (rent, phone, electric, student loans…etc)  I am starting to fall behind.

And now tour is over, I should be getting re-imbursed for my tour expenses soon, but without work income coming in (my tour contract ended 6/15)  and mom’s medical expenses keep coming in…

Well I am waiting on a temp job (I should be working next week) and I have put in for unemployment, so I should get some money for the time I am waiting for work to start up again… but the next two weeks are going to be rough..  so I thought, hey I can’t ask any one friend for a 4-500 bucks I would need to get through the rest of june, but maybe I can ask my 150-200 or so friends out there who read my blogs and are on my facebook and myspace  to each lend me 5-20 bucks.

Is there any one out there who feel they can help me out?

I have Paypal, and those of you who are members of the AFCU, you can even just transfer funds to me.

Thank you for your help

David

Ok -  I bet you read that and thought I was going to say something about reality TV -  well  you  would be wrong, since I don’t really watch too much reality TV.  Oh I may catch a bit of Extreme Makeover Home Addition, because I enjoy seeing how they make some of those things.  And some of the other renovation shows (going all the way back to “This Old House”)  cause even though I am not a home owner, I like to know how to do things around the house.  And sometimes sitting in a hotel room you have nothing to watch but some of the trainwreck celebreality shows on VH-1, but that is not reality…  my reality is on CBS and its called “The Big Bang Theory“

This week’s episode, entitled “The Nerdvana Annihilation” once again made me laugh at myself and at times scared me a little too much of what I am. This week’s episode brought up the issue of choosing to put away nerdyish things, to become a more mainstream member of society.

It is a delimna I find myself in - There are things going on in my life right now, important things, that I need to face, and I have to put aside some of the things truely make me happy for a time.

Some of you have begun to ask me -  what happened?  Where have you been David, I have missed my weekly Geek love and midlife crisis updates

Well the last few weeks have been quite a handful for me.  My tour life was taking a bit of a toll on my body, as I fought off a cold, so late feb and early march I began to slack off a bit

Then I was hit with a bit of a personal bomb,  My mother was diagnosed with Stage 4 Pancreatic Cancer, a non operable 3cm tumor had developd at the tip of her pancreas and had begun to matasize into her liver.

If you happen to see the recent news about Patrick Swayze, then you may know how serious this cancer is.

My attention of late has been, understandbly on my mother, and my family.

I will return to this blog - I want to -  I need to have something regular to focus back on.

Thanks to my friends who have offered their emotional support

I am working on the road again (look forward to some Tour-ture blogs) for TheatreworksUSA, but I am mostly local in January

The countdown to midlife crisis is meant to be humorous, but this week I got to spend time with a good friend of mine,  a good friend who happens to be 22 years old.  I hung out with her and one of her friends for a while, listening to them talk about all the things they plan on,  their carreer goals, their life goals, (Start a commune?)  It was the first time in a while where I felt  really old, and  unfulfilled

Somewhere I have a journal with 5 goals I wanted in 5 years that I wrote in 1995.  I need to find that list and see how I did.

It was the New Years’ and I did not make a list of resolutions this year.  I seldom keep them.  The only resolution I am going to make this year is to strive to be happy and  healthy this year.

One of the nice things about touring theatre is I get to go back to places I don’t get to too often. This week my tour took me to southeastern Michigan, with performances in Monroe and Jackson. So I called upon an old friend (whom I have not actually seen in almost 12 years) and told him I would be in the area. He, being the immensely cool dude that he is, said “Dude I have a spare room with your name on it, if you want”

So here I was, spending my first actual night in Ann Arbor in years (the last time I was out the was for an Ozzfest concert, a trip that included an unfortunate incident with some poison ivy, but was still a great time)

I got to spend time with old friends in a place that I truely enjoy going. There was a moment or two when I was sitting there, laughing and catching up where I thought “I wonder if UProd is looking for an associate producer or and assistant Production Manager”

Of course, I don’t think I would really take a job in A2, I am a New Yorker, living anywhere else full time would be kidding myself.

But I had a great time - went to my first professional Roller Derby, the Detroit Derby Girls, I got to see the Detroit Pistoffs beat the D-Funk Allstars at the Masonic Temple, and the head ref of the bout was my old friend from college, aka Iggy Slop.

The only thing is that there was just not enough time to see everyone and do everything I would have liked to - the next time I get a weekend off I would love to head out there, maybe go the good old Nectarine Ballroom (now simply as Necto) for a monday night industrial flashback. And a trip to Angelo’s for some of that delicious French Toast.
When I finally make it big, I will get myself a place in out there tho -

I never thought it would be hard to keep this on schedule - but I am already falling behind 3 weeks in.

I have been taken copious notes tho, about my life and things I want to talk about.  I did a lot of laundry this past week (and still have more to do, but that’s another story).  And I realized that when it comes to getting dressed, I still dress like I was in college.  I have so many black t shirts, the majority of which express a sarcastic funny thought, or a cartoon/comic character. (all very geeky stuff)

Now wearing black is an occupational hazard, but I think I would really like to update my wardrobe some.  I don’t want to loose my sense of style (geeky as it maybe)  But I think there should be a way to dress geeky and still be fashionable.  I believe a man should dress with a sense of timelessness.  I hate trends.  I would like to be able to walk onto the set of any movie in hollywood, set in any period in the 20th/21st century.

While on the subject of fashion.  When exactly did men stop wearing hats?  I mean real hats, not ballcaps?   I like hats.  I have considered starting a hat movement.  More on this to come.