Looking for a name here – Something witty to follow

Ok, I haven’t come up for the title of this yet, Its about my future, which of course is unknown. I thought about calling it My Undiscoverd Country – but that is really a reference to life after death, and that’s not really how i want to think about my romantic life. I don;t want to call it Letters to Found Loves’ well because I am more original than that, plus i don’t want found loves. I do want to find someone I eventually share my life with, but I also want to find people who share my interests, and sense of adventure and humor. Like everyone else I want to belong – Even those of who staunchly reject social norms and conventions find ways of sharing common interests (and the internet has been a great place for them.)

Finding a name is important thing. Names define and empower us. Titles reflect what the content and intention is (one can only speculate what I was thinking when I came up with Exile in Geeksville I guess)

So I looked to others for examples and in looking I found some interesting blogs I want to take a moment to share with you.

- This Fish Needs A Bicycle – This is the Blog of one Heather Hunter, It chronicles the last 6 years of her life or so, starting with her break up with “J” (Jimmy Carter? JJ from Good Times? the Joker?) I don’t know if she ever reveals who he is, I am only two years into her archive and he is still “J” Psuedonyms like this in a blog confuse me, because everyone who knows her, knows who “J” is, and those who don’t have no clue, why hide his identity?

- Just Waiting to be Screwed Over – The Blog of a very pessimist dater from Canada – I can’t help but think the attitude going is going to affect the outcome.

- Grow Some Testicles – Four single young ladies have figured out the secret to dating in New York: Gentlemen, grow some testicles – Apparently these bloggers have moved on to some new things, but I am looking forward to seeing what they had to say

there are tons of them out there – and i enjoyed some of them, but I don’t want to be just another I am single in the city boo hoo blogs – That is part of the reason I have Geeksville be about more than just that. Stuff is happening for me. Some of it is exciting, some of its scary, some of it just sucks, but as Mr. Ted “Theodore” Logan said, “Strange things are afoot at the Circle K”

Stay tuned…

Countdown to Midlife Crisis 12 – The Countdown resumes

hey there blog buddies -

Thank you thank you thank you for all your support again,  so many of you have given me so much in the ways that you all could, and I am eternally grateful.

But that doesn’t make up for the lack of COUNTDOWNS. So….

RETURNS!

So  lets quick catch up, I am temping and I hate it, but I knew I would when I started.  So I sally forth.

Things are slowly coming together for me on the homefront, as I catch up after 8 months of touring.   I am looknig into the possiblity of getting a roommate,  now since I have a 1 bedroom, that means I may need to move, unless I become very close to a single female anytime soon (no don’t have one in particular in mind). That being said, I have shared my place short term with friends before,  folks who needed a place to stay while they were in town for a week a month ever a couple of days, and I will continue that offer as long as folks need it.  (think of it as staying at Dave’s Bronx B&B)

I know many of you have expressed concern about my mother.  She is still in chemo, but responding as well as we could have hoped.  Her spirits are strong, and positive, and she is looking forward to the family vacation she had planned before she became ill, in August, when she will go with my sisters and their families to Myrtle Beach, SC for a week.

GEEKSVILLE -  its coming back don’t you worry, I have 2 reviews sitting on my desk that need proofing,  A comic and that second half of the Doctor Who finale.

LOST LOVE -  Well I said in the last one, I think I am done with that now,  I have been looking to my past to figure out what I had been doing wrong there, and It has served me well -  I do have a new series planned to follow up on it.  I think if you like to read the MISSED CONNECTIONS on craigslist.org  yo may like this. LOL

JOB HUNT -  That is the next project,  I am temping yes, I have no intentions of staying in the place forever tho, so expect to hear about what it takes to re-invent yourself in today’s job market.

Ok  much peace to you all -

The Countdown continues…..

Countdown Week 20 – This Mortal Coil

Its mid May -  and I am still on the road, still away from my family, during a particularly trying time at home.

I have always lived my life with the idea that there was plenty of time to do everything I want.    But now I know that is not the case.

I never thought that my mother wouldn’t be there for my wedding, to be a grandmother to my kids…

But like so many other things in my life, I chose small.  I managed to stay safe and surround myself with things I think I want. So why do I still want those things?

I never really thought I would be 36 years old and still single. But if you know anything about me you know I have a history of avoiding taking the next step.  Personally, professionally,  i just want things to be easy, I don’t know where this work ethic developed.  But it has made me a concilliator and a diplomat.

I can handle hard! – I am smart- scary smart sometimes, and because of it certain things came easy to me early in life,  and because of that I did not have to try as hard as others.  I never was challanged early….

I am looking for that great challenge!

Week 46 – Love and the modern Geek

Week 46  to Midlife Crisis– Love and the modern Geek

The past few Countdowns have been focusing on my professional life, what shows I am doing, who I am working with etc,  while I know what you all want to hear about is the many romantic conquests being a Eligible Geek in NYC affords me.

I am single, obviously, and that is by choice.

Ok stop laughing now, no really stop laughing…

It really is a choice, not that I don’t want to be in a relationship, its I don’t have the time, or the stability of lifestyle to truly have the type of relationship I would want to have. Finding fulfillment in all aspects of anyone’s life, personal, professional, and any other facets of one’s life simultaneously

I have blogged in general about relationships, sometimes in reaction to specific events going on in my life,

To be honest my track record when it comes to women is not great, I do have a habit of getting my heart involved with women who don’t or can’t reciprocate.

My now infamous 3 rules of dating had really curtailed my social activities for a while, and while not completely abandoning them, I now  use them as a guideline, but I won’t date anyone who breaks all three rules – I just can’t see me doing that.

So who have I been dating lately?  No one regularly,  and I have been stood up a couple times in the past month,  I haven’t really been putting myself out there too much. Its so time consuming isn’t it? Meeting some one, wooing them, building the emotional connections to make, and then by the time I get something resembling a romance going, I usually end up having to leave town for a few months for work. (some of you in my biz may be familiar with that, or maybe you are someone who has gone through it with me)  And because of that I have been prone to dating women who I have already know, and feel there may be a connection with.  It saves a lot of time,  date 1 seems more like date 5.

There are 19 women on my “top friends” on my myspace page – of them I have been romantically involved  with 5 of them but am not at this time, 2 of those are now married. 1 of them I have occasional hook up relationship with, when our schedules allow, and 9 others I would be interested  in, if it probably wouldn’t destroy any friendship I currently have with them.  And that is just the ones in the top 24!

I seem to value those friendships, even tho, to be honest, I don’t think I would have started them, if I didn’t, on some level find myself attracted to them.  I commented once, that men and women don’t often become friends,  or that men become friends with women they are attracted to, and women become friends with men they do not .

That is not to say that I don’t think of these women as real friends or anything – I do.  If I didn’t I would probably be aggressive about persuing one of them romantically, but I play it safe – keep them as friends.